Keep calm! Don’t feel pressured to reach an orgasm. Relax and search for the right spots. It may take you a few times, but you’ll find it eventually. Self pleasure is all about exploration.
Try using toys, vibrators, anything that will help. Sometimes watching pornography helps. They make specific soft-hardcore porn for women that is less about the woman getting railed, and more about her being pleasured, which can help a lot. Search “female-friendly porn”
I've been dating this awesome guy for three years now, but he won't have sex with me. It's not a religious thing because he does want to have sex before marriage... He's just holding me to a statement I made a year or so ago about wanting to wait until I'm 21 (I'm 18, he's 19). I told him what I want, but he seems to think that I don't REALLY want it and that it's just my hormones talking. How do I get the clueless manchild to screw me?
If you’ve told him over and over, you need to get out of that situation. That sounds like a goddamn nightmare.
Tell him you want an intimate connection and you feel that you’re ready. It’s been a year. If it had been a few weeks-months, I could understand. But c’mon now. That sounds like torture.
If he doesn’t want you after you scream FUCK MEEEEE in his face, go find another willing suitor. <3 He should be catering to your needs, vows or not!